Today we are observing relationships with family, friends, and romantic partnerships.

Most of us categorize the people in our life as family we didn’t choose, friends and partners we did choose and the others, who we briefly encounter on our journey through life. But all beings in our life, whether it be a long term or a very short relationship, were created by us. We create them as we see them because they are our reflections.

We are all there is…

Everyone we have in our life is us and we are them. We create how they are in our life and the role and character they play. The people we see are as we create them because we are only observing them as they reflect us. As created, they act as a screen for our projector. What we project is what is within us. Everyone we see is as we see ourselves in some way. The purpose of this is so we can SEE ourselves. When we can see ourself, we are able to drop all that holds us back from our true self. Just like a mirror gives us the ability to see what we look like, people in our life gives us the ability to see what is in us. If we like what we see in the mirror we move on but if we don’t like it we change.

There is no law of attraction…

The law of attraction is an inaccurate observation because it implies that what we want is out there and by putting our attention on it, brings it to us. Actually everything we want we have created it. What we think about and desire is already in us. We are everything and everything is us projected out. When someone comes into our life that we wanted, rather it be friendly or romantic, we didn’t attract this person, we created them as we see them and they us.

In the event that the relationship turns sour, this means that the reflection of ourself is not pleasing to us which will cause us to leave this person to find another. However, if we have not consciously resolved our limited beliefs of ourself (insecurities),, the next person we create to be with, will eventually become the last person we left because our projection of what is in us has not changed. Although the screen for our projector is different and new, the slides in our projector are the same, therefore, creating the same feelings from the last relationship. This is why we often begin to generalize by believing all men or all women are the same because we are the same by not changing within. This is also the result of us believing we have out grown our partner as well. Because we believe this, we feel as though we must leave the person we have “evolved passed” and move on to someone that reflects who we are now. This is a misconception, but becomes true because although we have changed, the memory of our projection on that person is still there. So we have locked that person in a box of our past reflection. By doing this, we are unable to see this person differently. In our eyes, this person will remain the same and never reflect a new projection.

Memory keeps energy in a loop...

We can be healed from a disease but the memory of that disease keeps us feeling sick because we are not aware that we can let it go. We continue to live in the past which does not really exist unless it is remembered in the mind therefore replayed over and over again.

The memory of our past is often too hard to forget so in relationships we think the best solution is to leave the person that the memory is looped on. However, if we have not consciously resolved what created the person, within, the next relationship will feel the same. We may think that we have chosen someone completely different from our previous relationship and therefore have a relatively blissful beginning, but if what lies within us has not been resolved the same problem we had in our old relationship will be projected out again.

The yearning to be free

The yearning to be free is in us all not because we are being trapped but rather because we have yet to realize who we truly are. In not Knowing lends to limited creations for ourself. In our mind, we may believe that there is always a hurdle to jump over or an obstacle to figure out how to get around. Because we believe this, we create it to be true. When we Know who we really are is God, we Know we are free. The constant creation and reflection of being trapped will no longer be created because we Know we are free and limitless as God is limitless.

The best way to be free of our reflections is to be conscious of them by observing them presently without the assumption of their next move. By observing our partner’s behaviors and how they make us feel gives us insight on what we need to resolve within. For example, if a relationship with someone is unraveling, look at how their actions have led to the discomfort with them. Observe when the first feeling of entrapment in the relationship occurred. The desire to be free is something that will always create a door out in any situation where our entrapment feeling is triggered. By observing when our partner started to act unfavorable, we will notice that it always occurs when our desire to be free starts to eat at us. When our partner acts unfavorable, it allows us to have a reason to escape.

We may now wonder what responsibility does the other person have in the result of this relationship and the answer is, they have none. They are merely playing the part of our projections.The way we see them is only our own perception of them and not as they truly are. How they see us is only their perception of us. Therefore, we are playing a role for them as they are playing a role for us. It is all connected perfectly because we are all one. Separation is simply an illusion. When we fight with someone we are fighting ourselves and the matter that we are fighting for or against is not real. It is all created by us to get us to where we need to be to get Home. Home is knowing ourself as God within. God is love and when we know ourself as Love which is our true self, our only reflection is that of Love. At this point we are able to see all as their true self of Love.

Everything is you and you are everything and every experience is gifted knowledge on the path Home.